While writing my Girl About Town dating column for thelondonpaper, I noticed an odd thing. Though it was a column by a woman for women, men were my most impassioned correspondents. Turns out they have a lot to get off their chests in the domain of dating and romance. Who knew? I decided to give them a chance to do so by explaining in their own words the most puzzling aspects of their courtship behaviour. When it comes to dating and relationships, how do men operate and why? This book tries to answer. Deemed an 'amazing' book by Cosmopolitan Magazine, it was given out with the July 2010 issue, releasing a joyous 450,000 copies onto the market. The book was extracted in The Sunday Times in June 2010. It was translated into German, Polish, Italian and others, and distributed with Glamour magazine in South Africa.
Why do women feel incomplete without a romantic relationship? Why is singleness such a tricky, complicated state for women? And why does FUN – our hard-won freedom to etch as many notches on our bedposts as possible – so often feel like anything but? This book stemmed from my own experiences, and those of my friends, bingeing on junk food love: pursuing sexual encounters with people who didn't care about us nor us them, all in the name of experience...and feeling drained, anxious and bad about ourselves as a result. This book proposes a way out of the cycle of junk food love. It was extracted in The Sunday Times. The Observer called it 'interesting', written in a 'breezy and intimate' style. Interview with the Evening Standard here and in the Jewish Chronicle here and interview with the Sunday Times here. The Man Diet was translated into Korean, Portuguese, Italian and others.
What came before Tinder? What came before Guardian Soulmates, Match.com and Plenty of Fish? And when did singleness become a universal and expected life stage? This book is a scholarly answer to that question, focussed on 1970-2000 – the three decades before the internet rose to prominence. Testing the assumption that the internet radically retooled romance and courtship, I found that if we look back to around 1970, we see all the social and cultural trends already in place that underpinned the rocketing success of internet dating. The 1970s saw a rapidly expanding dating industry, many more singles as marriage rates sank, divorce rates soared, and casual sex and relationships became acceptable. I track the birth of the single as we know it today by charting the fascinating textures and oddities of the pre-internet world of singles services, including lonely hearts adverts, computer dating and introduction agencies. Called 'fascinating' by James Bloodworth in Unherd. Tim Stanley gave it five stars in the Telegraph and said it was 'like watching Love Island with Foucault'.